Everyone has the potential to be whoever and whatever they desire to be. The catch is that we have to work for it. We can’t just sit here and dream about it and hope that it happens…we have to actively pursue it. I know that there are a very lucky few who have their desires just happen serendipitously. But that is extremely rare. 99.9% of us have to get up every single morning and actually make it happen. And sometimes, unfortunately, no matter how hard we work at it, the dreams just don’t come true. And when that happens, we blame ourselves, others, the Fates, and anyone/anything else we can think of that might have played even the tiniest role in the non-manifestation of our dream. That’s normal but we can’t just stop there and decide that since it didn’t happen this time, for this dream that it will never happen…that we’re unworthy, untalented, not driven enough, unlucky, doomed, etc…. We have to pick ourselves up and figure out what happened. We are only doomed if we accept that fate. Maybe we put our trust in the wrong person or our timing was just a bit off or our approach was wrong. And, yes, maybe we do need to do a little more editing or rewrite our synopsis so that it really will grab the right person’s attention. We have to analyze everything…including ourselves…that brought us to this moment. First, get rid of the “I’m a total failure” attitude. It will not serve you well and you know this. Look at this as a temporary setback and a wake-up call. Second, take a hard look at your efforts to make your dream a reality. Was it really your best effort or does it need some work? Could you have used a different approach? And so on. Third, based on the answers to the questions in the second step, correct your course. Find your own North Star that will keep you on course until you end up exactly where you want to be. Just be aware that sometimes there will be deviations to the best-plotted course…and that isn’t a bad thing. Maybe your dream is to have your book published by one of the big-name publishing houses but your manuscript is either rejected or ends up in the slush pile. You begin to submit to other publishing houses that are less well known but are eager to find the next Stephen King or George R.R. Martin so they actually read your submittals and make an offer. Or someone convinces you that e-publishing your masterpiece is the way to go so you do that. What you don’t consider when doing either of those things, which you consider to be falling short of your actual dream, is that you’re getting your name out there. There are authors that began their career by e-publishing their books and were then “discovered” by a publishing house. You can’t let circumstances stop you from moving forward. You can’t look at every single deviation as falling short. Sometimes you just have to allow your dream to become…something, anything. Let it take shape without micromanaging every minute detail. Just drift for a while and see what happens. But don’t give up on it. You have to do everything that you possibly can to realize your dream. Don’t waste a perfectly good dream by just quitting. You really do have the power to make your dream a reality.
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