I want to say that 2019 holds all of the magic, wonder, love, success, and dreams made true but I can’t stop there. On the way to all of those things, there will likely be disappointments, struggles, failures, and more of the negative things that we resolved to leave behind in 2018. But, the thing is, if we do have those negative things in our lives, it means that we are actively working toward the positive things that we were hoping would happen for us in 2019. There are going to be more trial and error situations than we’d like but that’s how everything great happens in the world. The vast majority of artists, writers, businessmen, and scientists didn’t get where they were without trials and errors. They experimented, failed, made adjustments, failed, more adjustments and finally, they succeeded. We writers have to first find our voice and that can take a lot of writing. We experiment with genres, writing styles, plotting, character development, story arcs, and so on and so forth. Sure there are a few successful writers out there that woke up one day and decided to write a book, wrote that book, and got it published without going through these stages but they are very few and far between. The rest of us struggle, fail, struggle, and eventually succeed. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with going through the fail cycle more than a few times. From every failure, you learn something and grow. The key is to never stop. I know that every single time we hit that wall and have to backtrack to figure out why we failed this time, it can be devastating…especially when we thought that this time we had succeeded. If you are like me, as a writer, you have a couple of goals…write a good book, story, poem, etc…, and get it published. We can never give up on that dream. If we do, we will spend the rest of our lives feeling incomplete and like a failure. What if that next rewrite was THE rewrite…the one that agents and publishers were waiting for? Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering about that? I don’t. I’d rather spend the rest of my life working toward something than dreaming about it and knowing that it will never happen because I gave up. If I fail at something, I want to fail knowing that I worked my ass off for it rather than just gave up. I’ve been a quitter and it pretty much sucked. There was not a day that went by that I didn’t think about Rapture while it sat in a file folder out of sight. It ate away at me. It didn’t just make me feel like a failure and a quitter…I was a failure and a quitter because I gave up on my dream. Well, I might fail again in 2019 but it won’t be because I gave up and quit. I am going to finish my book and if I get a stack of rejection letters, so be it…at least I tried! And there’s always 2020.
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.” ~ J. K. Rowling