Day 78: Whatever

Some days are “whatever” days.  Those are days where you just do whatever happens to happen.  Right now, my plans are to write this blog post, relax for a few minutes, start sorting and bagging the gifts for my stepkids and their families, maybe take a nap, get ready for our dinner tonight at a wonderful Tex-Mex hole in the wall restaurant (where I will drink some margaritas), go to dinner with everyone, eat, open gifts, talk, then come home and probably stay up too late after being energized by margaritas, good food, and conversation.  I’m just moving from one thing to the next but there’s no time for writing built into this whatever day.  And you know what…that’s just fine.  Writing shouldn’t be a chore that we feel we have to do…we should want to write every day.  This is our creative ability and we have “exercise” it so that we become stronger, better writers.  We have to stretch to reach the next levels of our abilities.  I’ve been somewhat content to let my writing lay dormant but now I am here exercising and stretching in a whole new form…the blog.  Not only is it an interesting way to share thoughts, successes, failures, insights, etc…, it is also one of my daily writing exercises.  Whether we are writing in our chosen genre, in a blog, in a journal, we are writing and that is a very good thing.  I think it’s good to mix it up by writing in ways that are not our first choice of expression.  I usually write poetry and prose with an essay or two tossed in for good measure.  When I accepted the 365-day blog challenge, I had no clue what that entailed so I was nervous but also excited.  I set up my blog and started writing.  It has helped me immensely with my grammar and structure.  It also gives me a means of reaching out to other writers.  Whenever I see a new like, comment or follow, it feels so amazing.  Not because I want to be one of the superstar bloggers but because I like knowing that something I said moved someone to the point where they did one of those things.  I have never claimed to know everything about writing…I am just a writer pondering writing.  Sometimes, my blog post isn’t even about writing because, like everyone else, life sometimes takes precedence over it.  I think it’s good to get that out there so that others know they are not the only ones that this happens to at times.  Especially, when those life events are on a roll taking out our plans like a bowling ball crashing into bowling pins.  We cannot control everything.  What’s the quote…man plans, God laughs?  I’m only juggling a job, a husband, 8 critters, feral critters, and writing.  Others have children, are in school, are juggling 2 or more jobs, are caring for ailing parents, etc…, and those things are not on a strict ABC 123 schedule.  They happen when they happen.  And plans have to be rethought and adjusted.  We have to find ways to work around them but sometimes that is just not possible.  So, we have to just accept that and give ourselves a break from our Franklin Covey’d expectations and plans and stop judging or thinking of ourselves as failures because we are not.  We are not machines.  We are human and, therefore, not perfect.  Even our perfect plans are imperfect.  Accept that and move on.  But, when things do calm down in our lives, we have to get back to writing because even though it’s sometimes frustrating, tedious, rage-inducing, and/or just plain boring, it feeds our soul.  So, when you have “whatever” days, just roll through them the best you can, without guilt or judgment, and handle them.  Then commit to get back in front of your laptop and start writing again as soon as possible after everything is handled.  It will make you feel so much better because when we immerse ourselves fully in our writing, we leave the “whatever” world behind and we are in control once again.     

Happy Solstice!

About Donna Heilman

I am a writer that lives in the Dallas-Ft. Worth Metroplex with my husband, 3 dogs, and 6 cats. I am currently working on my novel, Rapture, as well as writing poetry and some short non-fiction. I am honestly writing this blog to feel more connected with other creative people.
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