Day 64: Holidays

Our days are about to become a little more hectic with all of the planning and rushing around for the holidays.  Our Christmas is pretty low key.  We have a get together with Rick’s kids and our grandkids on the 21st and we usually spend Christmas day with my family.  Even though it’s low key, it still takes me away from my writing since I don’t have that much spare time.  Not to sound completely like the Grinch but I just don’t seem to have the same Christmas spirit that I used to have.  Actually, I have very little.  I love buying and giving people gifts that they love and I’ve always been really good at that.  But, other than that, I’d be perfectly content to stay home with Rick and the critters and watch horror movies (I haven’t seen It’s a Wonderful Life in about 20 years and I’ve never watched even 1 of the Hallmark Christmas movies) while I write.  I do miss my parents most during the holidays.  My dad was a big kid when it came to Christmas and our house was decorated inside and out.  My mom was a cooking fiend during the holidays.  Her pecan pie was legendary.  Without them to hold us together, my brother and I have become somewhat estranged and Christmas is usually the only time we see each other now even though we only live about 30 minutes apart.  We are such different people now that we have very little in common.  So, yeah, I have some Bah Humbug going on here.  The holidays can bring up some issues that we don’t face on a daily basis so it can be difficult.  I tend to pull into myself more and write.  So that’s 1 positive thing that comes from it.  I’m trying to deal with my more negative emotions and moods that way because it’s cathartic even if I’m not writing specifically about what’s bothering me.  It just sets the tone for the piece I’m writing.  I’m trying to do more things in ways that support my dreams, goals, and well-being.  Sometimes that means saying no to people and they become angry or hurt because they don’t understand where I’m coming from and then they don’t want to hear the reason.  So, I’ve stopped explaining myself and if they love and support me, they will accept my answer without anger, hurt, or judgment.  We have to take better care of ourselves…mentally, emotionally, and physically.  We should set our sights on something and do what is necessary to make it happen.  We are just as important as anyone else in our lives so we have to treat ourselves that way.  And believe in ourselves.  So, during the holidays, we need to try to let the stress flow around us rather than through us.  Avoid anything that we know will trigger negative emotions.  And remember that the people who truly know, understand, and love us will accept us as we are.        

About Donna Heilman

I am a writer that lives in the Dallas-Ft. Worth Metroplex with my husband, 2 dogs, and 10 cats. I am currently working on my novel, Rapture, as well as writing poetry and some short non-fiction. I am honestly writing this blog to feel more connected with other creative people.
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