Day 32: Our Tribes

Having a tribe is very important when you’re a creative person. We need people to bounce our ideas off of, to be supportive of us, to be honest with us, to commiserate with us, to encourage us, to mentor us, etc…. They don’t even have to be located near us since we have email, internet, FaceBook groups, blogs, apps like Skype that allow us to communicate face to face and, of course, cell phones. We can meet in orchestrated or random ways. The thing is, we usually know each other as soon as we meet. I found my current tribe in 4 different places…Succulent Wild World, Rhapsody of Writing, The Sunday Night Writing Group and Divinely Wild Women. I know that if I am having a problem with my writing all I have to do is post it and within minutes, someone will usually respond. They might not have the answer but just the fact that someone read my post and cared enough to respond is amazing. We all need that in our lives. Being creative can be lonely and we often feel isolated even when we’re surrounded by people. Most of the people in our lives, no matter how supportive they are, will never understand our creative side or our struggles. Being creative is a bit like having multiple personalities. We have our creative side and then we have our “normal” side that we present to the non-creatives in our lives. I personally think that if those non-creatives could spend just an hour in our heads it would warp them forever. We are usually non-linear thinkers, we jump from one subject to another with little warning, we’re a bit ADD and OCD, and we always have more than a few of our brain’s browser tabs open.  Something totally random can send our brains spinning off in a hundred different directions.  Usually, it has to do with our current project but it could have also planted the seed for a future project.  We’re always thinking about what if this happened or if that didn’t happen; what if he did this and she did that.  Our Google searches could get us convicted of crimes or committed to a mental hospital if viewed by someone that isn’t a writer or doesn’t know that we are.  This is especially true for writers of thrillers and mysteries.  We talk to ourselves…and answer.  We even debate ourselves.  We work on dialogue out loud using different voices for our characters.  The books that we read when doing research can sometimes be bizarre and people tend to stare if we read them in public.  Responsible adults shouldn’t be reading about vampires, werewolves, ghosts, mythical creatures, or how to murder someone and get away with it.  We sometimes have to be coaxed out of our reverie when we’re out with others because we’re lost in thoughts about our characters.  You get the idea.  Basically, we’re not really what most people consider to be normal.  But, you know what?  I like how my brain works so I don’t care that others might think I’m strange or slightly unhinged.  Or that they tease me about being a daydreamer.  I don’t care because my tribe gets me.  They don’t think I’m odd or that daydreaming is a waste of time.  They just understand without me having to explain it to them.  And when the normal world gets to me, I can go play with the people in my tribe.  So, you really do need a tribe if you’re pursuing a life of creativity.  They’re out there waiting to be found so don’t waste any more time…get out there and start looking.  You’ll be glad that you did.   

“Let your weird light shine bright so the other weirdos know where to find you.” ~  Spirit Science   

About Donna Heilman

I am a writer that lives in the Dallas-Ft. Worth Metroplex with my husband, 2 dogs, and 10 cats. I am currently working on my novel, Rapture, as well as writing poetry and some short non-fiction. I am honestly writing this blog to feel more connected with other creative people.
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